The MeAjur Komera Waddi ([info]komera) wrote,
2005-11-08 23:25:00

Dad's Death

b August 24, 1947
d November 8, 2005

Raymond Grady Harris Junior

After having fallen asleep on Sunday, Dad continued to sleep even while the various systems of his body shut off one by one. Ironically, he died with a full stomach, as his digestive track had shut off (for those who don't remember, he wanted to starve himself). I knew he wasn't that long from death when his peaceful sleep expression turned into blankness that even outdoes that of Terri Schiavo. While I will of course miss him, I find that I'm actually happy he's dead. Perhaps it's that in his last week of life, he had become such a pitiful shell of his former self, that I'm happy he's no longer in pain.

For those who would like to see his handy work; go to the Holsonback portion of MyFamilyTree.com. He was the keeper of the tree and a good portion of it was compiled by him.
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[info]chaosnyte

November 12 2005, 02:11:33 UTC 6 years ago

My condolences, Komera.

[info]rinku

November 12 2005, 07:24:53 UTC 6 years ago

I wanted to meet him one day, too.

You probably already know this advice but try to dwell on the happy parts of his life, and the greatness of him existing at all, rather on what he won't get to see or what you won't get to do with him anymore -- existing things over non-existing things in other words.

[info]komera

November 12 2005, 16:41:14 UTC 6 years ago

no... actually i'm pretty happy right now. does that make me cold hearted?

[info]rinku

November 12 2005, 16:45:56 UTC 6 years ago

I like cold-heartedness. Still, you might miss him later on, such as if you see something you would want to show him. I guess it helps that you believe in the afterlife though.

[info]komera

November 12 2005, 16:58:22 UTC 6 years ago

i do, but as a reason to be joyous, not as a desire to die. although i don't think that belief has that much to do with it. my entire family is religious (be it baptist, buddhist, or other) but i'm the only one who hasn't shead a tear (who knew him, that is. my relatives in thailand know him only by his association with mom).

[info]rinku

November 12 2005, 19:24:25 UTC 6 years ago

I'm the same way, I think I mentioned that to you before, that I never cried when any relative died (3 of my 4 grandparents for example). Could be lack of empathy, could be that we see the uselessness of crying over spilled milk, I don't know.
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